What kind of 'vert are you if you swap from extrovert to introvert to something-in-between on a daily basis?
I've had complete and total flip-flops throughout my life which have left me a little bit confused. My first memories are of being painfully shy, not wanting people to notice me, and feeling very insecure because I was not pretty and blonde like my big sister.
Then I hit 7th grade (that's grade 7, in Canadian-speak) and decided that I was missing a lot, and I was going to become outgoing. So I did. That's when I discovered that what people think of you comes from what you think of yourself. This has been immensely helpful in job interviews! On the flip-side, it's also when I learned to start thinking of myself as I wanted to been seen. I stuffed away all the parts of me - my preferences, thoughts, habits - that weren't cool.
Since then, I've more than doubled in age. I'm still not very smart, and still struggle to make decision that aren't based soley on what will make other people like me, but I'm starting to rediscover my likes and dislikes. How elementary is that?
So I guess if I want to be an anti-social home-body one day, a gad-about-town the next day, and the hostess-with-the-mostess on the days in between, that's ok. And it's also OK that I like both John Foggerty & Lady Ga Ga; trashy smut & Willa Cather; homegrown-homemade-organic & Burger King; PBS and Jersey Shore.
I. Don't. Have. To. Be. The. Same. Person. Every. Day.
4 comments:
AMEN SISTER! I love you!
I second that Amen! Is it weird to have those kind of changes during the day? Some days I start out wanting to go out and do some shopping, and by the time I'm done with my day, all I want to do is go home and sit on the couch. Am I bipolar?
I would have to say "no no" to Jersey Shore though...I'm pretty sure I would hate the guidos and guidettes as much as I think I do...but totally agree with John Foggerty and Lady Gaga, especially "Paparazzi!"
"To choose joy over the fear and vulnerability of being different or weird or ridiculed is a tremendous act of courage- one that touches all of us." -Brené Brown
http://www.ordinarycourage.com/my-blog/2009/7/31/tgif-wholehearted-giveaway.html
We should do things for ourselves and not to fulfill the expectations or others, or stress about what they will think. Dance down the isle of your life! (See the video in the link above.)
So far this year I've found that when I do things for me and not because of what others will think, I do things the right way (whether it's my way, or God's way or just the right way) and love the outcome in the end. That makes me happy! When I tried doing those same things only for others, they never got done properly and I never enjoyed the outcome.
Very true Amers...there's too many things to enjoy to limit oneself to the combinations of things that people think are best....
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